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Friday, October 20, 2017

Divorce and Psychological Damage Done to Fathers by Joshua A Krisch

Divorce and the Psychological Damage Done to Fathers Divorced men drink and smoke more often; they engage in riskier sex, and are more likely to avoid doctor visits and die of preventable diseases. By Joshua A. Krisch Published Ten divorced men commit suicide each day — a rate at least three times higher than that of divorced women. Divorced men drink and smoke more often; they engage in riskier sex, and are more likely to avoid doctor visits and die of preventable and treatable diseases. Divorce effects on men’s psychological and physical health can be summed up in a word: “bad.” If the man in question is a father, a better word would be “horrible.” “The biggest psychological impact results from the loss of contact with a dad’s partner and kids,” Will Courtenay, psychologist and author of the book Dying To Be Men, told Fatherly. “In the absolute worst case scenario, this leads to severe depression and suicide.” Must Reads 1 2 Dads may want to think twice before ending their marriages. Besides the negative effects that divorce can have on children, studies suggest that marriage is broadly protective for dads. Married men are healthier than their single and divorced counterparts — they’re more likely to have their skin examined for melanoma (because their wives point out their skin flaws) and more likely to get colonoscopies (because their wives force them to keep their appointments). The death rate for men who have never been married is 70 percent higher than men who have been married or who are currently married. Marriage isn’t perfect — studies have linked unhappy marriages to high blood pressure and the sort of dip in the immune system that can cause more cases of the flu, arthritis, and dental caries. But, in general, dads are way healthier in wedlock. Perhaps due to feelings of isolation, divorced dads often quickly abandon caring for their personal health, Courtenay explains. They eat fewer fruits and vegetables, they are less careful about using protection during sex, and less cautious when driving their cars. They visit the doctor less often, and they don’t bother taking prescribed medications. Thirty percent of men who live alone haven’t seen a physician within the past year and 42 percent don’t have a regular physician. Dean Tong, an advocate for parents who are falsely accused of child abuse, told Fatherly that divorce often causes “somatic issues such as headaches, stomachaches, nausea, and vomiting” as well as “mental health issues such as nightmares, flashbacks, and PTSD.” One of the most troubling realities of modern divorce for fathers is that it leads to suicide. Men who are not married account for 62 percent of all male suicides, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. One study in 2004 confirmed that divorced people have higher suicide rates than their married peers, and that divorced men are as much as eight times more likely to kill themselves than divorced women, overall. man holding wedding band Augustine Kposowa, a sociologist at the University of California, Riverside and author of this study suggests that such high suicide rates are probably not solely due to loneliness. Instead, he writes, “societal institutions tend to ignore or minimize male problems, as evident in suicide statistics.” Kposowa argues that, after men lose their children in custody battles, they spiral into “resentment, bitterness, anxiety, and depression, reduced self-esteem, and a sense of ‘life not worth living’.” There are no obvious solutions, but social support helps. Dads going through divorces should make every effort to surround themselves with friends and family, and see their children as often as possible. “Men have fewer friendships and smaller social networks than women do, which sometimes leaves them without anyone when they lose their partner and kids to divorce,” Courtenay says. “For the average guy, his wife and kids are his primary, and sometimes only, source of support.” Which means maintaining strong connections is crucial. Joshua A. Krisch writes for Fatherly.

Friday, October 13, 2017

Fathers United Women'Coalition Legal Clinic Oct 26 2017

website http://fathersunitedwomenscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, October 26, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo .com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text, please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old-timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Fathers United Women's Legal Clinic Oct 12 2017

website http://fathersunitedwome nscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Meeting announcements 703 347 6518 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, Oct 12, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo .com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text, please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old-timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous