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Friday, December 15, 2017

Fathers United Women's Coalition `Legal Clinic 2018

Please put these meetings on your calender, public service announcements or web site!How to get there:From D.C., take 95 South, take the Springeld Exit and then take a right onto Keene Mill Road (644 West). At the seventh trac light take a right onto Rolling Road, then take the right after the McDonalds into the Church parking lot, and proceed to Room 265.2018 Meeting ScheduleFathers United for Equal Rights & Women’s CoalitionMEETINGS START AT 7PMLEGAL CLINIC STARTS AT 8PMMessiah United Methodist Church6215 Rolling Road in Springeld, VAMeetings are held every other Thursday at 7pm.Meetings are scheduled for the following Thursdays: • January 11, 25• February 8, 22• March 8, 22• April 5, 19• May 3, 17, 31• June 14, 28Annual dues for legal clinic $45 (or three $15 payments).Email: Stephenhoman2000@yahoo.comPhone: 703-971-2379 • Text: 571-214-2432 • Meeting Announcements: 703-347-6518Website: fathersunitedwomenscoalition.comFREE book to all attendees:“The Best Parent is Both Parents”While supplies last!• July 12, 26• August 9, 23• September 6, 20• October 4, 18• November 1, 15, 29• Dec 13, 27Visit Fathers United for Equal Rights & Women’s Coalition on Facebookor at our blog:fuerwc.blogspot.comDESIGNED AND PRINTED IN THE USAPlease put these meetings on your calender, public service announcements or web site!How to get there:From D.C., take 95 South, take the Springeld Exit and then take a right onto Keene Mill Road (644 West). At the seventh trac light take a right onto Rolling Road, then take the right after the McDonalds into the Church parking lot, and proceed to Room 265.2018 Meeting ScheduleFathers United for Equal Rights & Women’s CoalitionMEETINGS START AT 7PMLEGAL CLINIC STARTS AT 8PMMessiah United Methodist Church6215 Rolling Road in Springeld, VAMeetings are held every other Thursday at 7pm.Meetings are scheduled for the following Thursdays: • January 11, 25• February 8, 22• March 8, 22• April 5, 19• May 3, 17, 31• June 14, 28Annual dues for legal clinic $45 (or three $15 payments).Email: Stephenhoman2000@yahoo.comPhone: 703-971-2379 • Text: 571-214-2432 • Meeting Announcements: 703-347-6518Website: fathersunitedwomenscoalition.comFREE book to all attendees:“The Best Parent is Both Parents”While supplies last!• July 12, 26• August 9, 23• September 6, 20• October 4, 18• November 1, 15, 29• Dec 13, 27Visit Fathers United for Equal Rights & Women’s Coalition on Facebookor at our blog:fuerwc.blogspot.comDESIGNED AND PRINTED IN THE USA

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Fathers United Women's Coalition Legal Clinic Room 265 7pm Nov 16

website http://fathersunitedwomenscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, November 16, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo .com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text, please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old-timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

Friday, October 20, 2017

Divorce and Psychological Damage Done to Fathers by Joshua A Krisch

Divorce and the Psychological Damage Done to Fathers Divorced men drink and smoke more often; they engage in riskier sex, and are more likely to avoid doctor visits and die of preventable diseases. By Joshua A. Krisch Published Ten divorced men commit suicide each day — a rate at least three times higher than that of divorced women. Divorced men drink and smoke more often; they engage in riskier sex, and are more likely to avoid doctor visits and die of preventable and treatable diseases. Divorce effects on men’s psychological and physical health can be summed up in a word: “bad.” If the man in question is a father, a better word would be “horrible.” “The biggest psychological impact results from the loss of contact with a dad’s partner and kids,” Will Courtenay, psychologist and author of the book Dying To Be Men, told Fatherly. “In the absolute worst case scenario, this leads to severe depression and suicide.” Must Reads 1 2 Dads may want to think twice before ending their marriages. Besides the negative effects that divorce can have on children, studies suggest that marriage is broadly protective for dads. Married men are healthier than their single and divorced counterparts — they’re more likely to have their skin examined for melanoma (because their wives point out their skin flaws) and more likely to get colonoscopies (because their wives force them to keep their appointments). The death rate for men who have never been married is 70 percent higher than men who have been married or who are currently married. Marriage isn’t perfect — studies have linked unhappy marriages to high blood pressure and the sort of dip in the immune system that can cause more cases of the flu, arthritis, and dental caries. But, in general, dads are way healthier in wedlock. Perhaps due to feelings of isolation, divorced dads often quickly abandon caring for their personal health, Courtenay explains. They eat fewer fruits and vegetables, they are less careful about using protection during sex, and less cautious when driving their cars. They visit the doctor less often, and they don’t bother taking prescribed medications. Thirty percent of men who live alone haven’t seen a physician within the past year and 42 percent don’t have a regular physician. Dean Tong, an advocate for parents who are falsely accused of child abuse, told Fatherly that divorce often causes “somatic issues such as headaches, stomachaches, nausea, and vomiting” as well as “mental health issues such as nightmares, flashbacks, and PTSD.” One of the most troubling realities of modern divorce for fathers is that it leads to suicide. Men who are not married account for 62 percent of all male suicides, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. One study in 2004 confirmed that divorced people have higher suicide rates than their married peers, and that divorced men are as much as eight times more likely to kill themselves than divorced women, overall. man holding wedding band Augustine Kposowa, a sociologist at the University of California, Riverside and author of this study suggests that such high suicide rates are probably not solely due to loneliness. Instead, he writes, “societal institutions tend to ignore or minimize male problems, as evident in suicide statistics.” Kposowa argues that, after men lose their children in custody battles, they spiral into “resentment, bitterness, anxiety, and depression, reduced self-esteem, and a sense of ‘life not worth living’.” There are no obvious solutions, but social support helps. Dads going through divorces should make every effort to surround themselves with friends and family, and see their children as often as possible. “Men have fewer friendships and smaller social networks than women do, which sometimes leaves them without anyone when they lose their partner and kids to divorce,” Courtenay says. “For the average guy, his wife and kids are his primary, and sometimes only, source of support.” Which means maintaining strong connections is crucial. Joshua A. Krisch writes for Fatherly.

Friday, October 13, 2017

Fathers United Women'Coalition Legal Clinic Oct 26 2017

website http://fathersunitedwomenscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, October 26, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo .com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text, please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old-timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Fathers United Women's Legal Clinic Oct 12 2017

website http://fathersunitedwome nscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Meeting announcements 703 347 6518 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, Oct 12, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo .com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text, please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old-timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Fathers United Women's Coalition Legal Clinic Sept 28

website http://fathersunitedwome nscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, Sept 28, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo .com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text, please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old-timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Fathers United Women's Legal Clinic August 31 7pm room265

web site http://fathersunitedwomenscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, August 31, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo.com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

Monday, July 31, 2017

August 3 Fathers United Women's Legal Clinic 7pm

web site http://fathersunitedwomenscoalition.com/ Call 703 971 2379 for information. Text 571 214 2432 Fathers United and Women's Coalition 7 pm Room 265 Meeting this Thursday, August 3, 2017, at Messiah United Methodist Church, 6215 Rolling Rd Springfield VA22152 Stephen Hoffman will be moderating. MY EMAIL stephenhoffman2000@yahoo.com The lawyer will be John Bauserman fathers United for Equal Rights and Women's Coalition of VA and DC will hold its regular meeting on Thursday in Springfield. Encourage friends to attend who have domestic relations issues.Make 5 calls or emails or text please!! We want members to attend even if they have no immediate problem so that they can help others. It is very helpful to have old timers present. The lawyer is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm and stays until about 9:30 pm depending on the number of questions. Bring any legal papers including motions, orders, and agreements. If you have specific questions now, you may send them by e-mail. The lawyer may be able to bring material, which is on point. COST: Dues are $45/year for the first year payable at $15/meeting until dues are paid in full. At the present time renewal is only $30/year if membership is continuous

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Psychopath vs Sociopath

World of Psychology About the Blog Archives Differences Between a Psychopath vs Sociopath By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. ~ 4 min read Differences Between a Psychopath vs Sociopath Society has conspired with Hollywood to put two seemingly-sexy psychology terms into our collective consciousness — psychopath and sociopath. Psychopath and sociopath are pop psychology terms for what psychiatry calls an antisocial personality disorder. These two terms are not really well-defined in the psychology research literature, and so there is some confusion about them. Nonetheless, there are some general similarities as well as differences between these two personality types. Both types of personality have a pervasive pattern of disregard for the safety and rights of others. Deceit and manipulation are central features to both types of personality. Contrary to popular belief, a psychopath or sociopath is not necessarily violent. The common features of a psychopath and sociopath lie in their shared diagnosis — antisocial personality disorder. The DSM-51 defines antisocial personality as someone have 3 or more of the following traits: Regularly breaks or flouts the law Constantly lies and deceives others Is impulsive and doesn’t plan ahead Can be prone to fighting and aggressiveness Has little regard for the safety of others Irresponsible, can’t meet financial obligations Doesn’t feel remorse or guilt In both cases, some signs or symptoms are nearly always present before age 15. By the time a person is an adult, they are well on their way to becoming a psychopath or sociopath. Traits of a Psychopath Psychology researchers generally believe that psychopaths tends to be born — it’s likely a genetic predisposition — while sociopaths tend to be made by their environment. (Which is not to say that psychopaths may not also suffer from some sort of childhood trauma.) Psychopathy might be related to physiological brain differences. Research has shown psychopaths have underdeveloped components of the brain commonly thought to be responsible for emotion regulation and impulse control. Are you a psychopath? Take the Psychopathy Quiz to find out! Psychopaths, in general, have a hard time forming real emotional attachments with others. Instead, they form artificial, shallow relationships designed to be manipulated in a way that most benefits the psychopath. People are seen as pawns to be used to forward the psychopath’s goals. Psychopaths rarely feel guilt regarding any of their behaviors, no matter how much they hurt others. But psychopaths can often be seen by others as being charming and trustworthy, holding steady, normal jobs. Some even have families and seemingly-loving relationships with a partner. While they tend to be well-educated, they may also have learned a great deal on their own. When a psychopath engages in criminal behavior, they tend to do so in a way that minimizes risk to themselves. They will carefully plan criminal activity to ensure they don’t get caught, having contingency plans in place for every possibility. Psychopath Pop Culture Examples: Dexter, Anton Chigurh in No Country for Old Men, Henry in Henry: Portrait of a Serial Killer, Patrick Bateman in American Psycho joker-sociopath-dark-knight Traits of a Sociopath Researchers tend to believe that sociopathy is the result of environmental factors, such as a child or teen’s upbringing in a very negative household that resulted in physical abuse, emotional abuse, or childhood trauma. Sociopaths, in general, tend to be more impulsive and erratic in their behavior than their psychopath counterparts. While also having difficulties in forming attachments to others, some sociopaths may be able to form an attachment to a like-minded group or person. Unlike psychopaths, most sociopaths don’t hold down long-term jobs or present much of a normal family life to the outside world. When a sociopath engages in criminal behavior, they may do so in an impulsive and largely unplanned manner, with little regard for the risks or consequences of their actions. They may become agitated and angered easily, sometimes resulting in violent outbursts. These kinds of behaviors increase a sociopath’s chances of being apprehended. Sociopath Pop Culture Examples: The Joker in The Dark Knight, JD in Heathers, Alex Delarge in A Clockwork Orange Who is More Dangerous? Both psychopaths and sociopaths present risks to society, because they will often try and live a normal life while coping with their disorder. But psychopathy is likely the more dangerous disorder, because they experience a lot less guilt connected to their actions. A psychopath also has a greater ability to dissociate from their actions. Without emotional involvement, any pain that others suffer is meaningless to a psychopath. Many famous serial killers have been psychopaths. Not all people we’d call a psychopath or sociopath are violent. Violence is not a necessary ingredient (nor is it for a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder) — but it is often present. Clues to a Psychopath or Sociopath in Childhood Clues to psychopathy and sociopathy are usually available in childhood. Most people who can later be diagnosed with sociopathy or psychopathy have had a pattern of behavior where they violate the basic rights or safety of others. They often break the rules (or even laws) and societal norms as a child, too. Psychologists call these kinds of childhood behaviors a conduct disorder. Conduct disorders involve four categories of problem behavior: Aggression to people and animals Destruction of property Deceitfulness or theft Serious violations of rules or laws If you recognize these symptoms (and the specific symptoms of conduct disorder) in a child or young teen, they’re at greater risk for antisocial personality disorder. Summary Psychopathy and sociopathy are different cultural labels applied to the diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder. Up to 3 percent of the population may qualify for a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder. This disorder is more common among males and mostly seen in people with an alcohol or substance abuse problem, or in forensic settings such as prisons. Psychopaths tend to be more manipulative, can be seen by others as more charming, lead a semblance of a normal life, and minimize risk in criminal activities. Sociopaths tend to be more erratic, rage-prone, and unable to lead as much of a normal life. When sociopaths engage in criminal activity, they tend to do so in a reckless manner without regard to consequences. Footnotes: The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, the reference manual that defines the symptoms of mental disorders. [↩] Related Articles Am I a Psychopath? Am I a Psychopath? 4/23/2015 The Science of Preventing Dangerous Psychopathy The Science of Preventing Dangerous Psychopathy 1/21/2017 Surprising Myths & Facts About Antisocial Personality Disorder Surprising Myths & Facts About Antisocial Personality Disorder 4/6/2013 3.9K6.5K About John M. Grohol, Psy.D. Dr. John Grohol is the founder & CEO of Psych Central. He is an author, researcher and expert in mental health online, and has been writing about online behavior, mental health and psychology issues -- as well as the intersection of technology and human behavior -- since 1992. Dr. Grohol sits on the editorial board of the journal Computers in Human Behavior and is a founding board member and treasurer of the Society for Participatory Medicine. View all posts by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. →